Parenting 101

COUPLES - 101


How many have wished for this class. Everyday, many adults come into therapist offices, like mine, looking for answers. They have questions - "why has my life become so unmanageable? What happened, this was not my plan?" This situation comes as such a shock to those who believed they had found that absolutely perfect individual they were going to spend their whole life. For some, it is not that they really do not still love the qualities of their significant other. It is more that certain events have created the monster with-in us all. Stress, tension, trying to achieve ours and others expectations, and of course money issues, all place us in territory that was not in the for front while we were dating.


Now we "expect" our spouse to understand we have certain demands that have been placed on us. Whether these demands have come from having a family or created from the office, our lives have changed. We want to be able to VENT out loud to someone about all the injustices we have occurred. We EXPECT our loved ones to TAKE our anger and let us release our frustrations (on them) with out anyone getting hurt.It is NOT that we want to hurt them, it is more that we are hurting.


So,with these couples, it's not that the magic is gone, it's that they have ignored how they originally were able to connect, what it was that connected that special person to them. They have placed a wall in front of what was at one time the most important priority in each others lives. RELATIONSHIPS take energy to make... and...to keep.


For this next week;every time you want to speak, first remember what is your goal here? How are these words going to reflect on you? Is this really what you are feeling and thinking? IS THIS THE MESSAGE YOU want to convey to your loved one? How we communicate is one of the major keys in keeping a relationship. Maybe this New Year, your resolution will be to remember what your priority is in life...

Have a very healthy, happy and joyous New Year,

Tracy